📖 Reading List
Before we can live in peace as women, we have to understand the design we’re living inside of. Much of the confusion, resentment, and exhaustion women experience in modern relationships comes from living in a culture that denies the meaning of sex, embodiment, and created differences.
My teachings are pulled from a body of work — scientific, relational, linguistic, and theological — that takes male and female design seriously. These books have helped shape how I understand men, women, the body, communication, and the spiritual meaning of sex differences.
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📘 What Your Husband Isn’t Telling You — David Murrow
An exploration of the inner world of men — emotionally, spiritually, and psychologically — with attention to the things husbands often struggle to articulate. Murrow examines how men process responsibility, stress, identity, faith, and relationships, helping women understand the unseen pressures and motivations shaping male behavior.
🧠 His Brain, Her Brain — Walt & Barb Larimore, MD
A science-based look at the divinely designed neurological and hormonal differences between male and female brains. The book explains how biology influences communication styles, emotional processing, risk response, and problem-solving, giving a physiological foundation for many everyday relational differences.
🪐 Men Are from Mars, Women Are from Venus — John Gray
A well-known framework for understanding how men and women differ in their responses to stress, support, and emotional expression. Gray’s work highlights how easily good intentions can be misread when we assume the opposite sex operates like we do.
💬 You Just Don’t Understand: Women and Men in Conversation — Deborah Tannen
A linguistic study of how men and women use language differently. Tannen explains how women often use conversation to build connection and shared understanding, while men more often use it to exchange information or negotiate status — a difference that can quietly shape marriages and families.
❤️ Loving Him Well — Gary Thomas
A Christian marriage book that focuses on how wives can love their husbands in ways that support spiritual maturity and relational health. Thomas blends Scripture, interviews, and practical insight to help women understand men beyond surface behavior.
📖 The Story of Sex in Scripture — Barbara & William Mouser
A biblical-theological approach to sexuality and male–female design across the storyline of the Bible. This type of work grounds sex differences not in culture, but in creation, covenant, and redemption.
🧍♀️ Love Thy Body — Nancy Pearcey
A philosophical and cultural defense of the Christian view of the human body. Pearcey challenges modern ideas that separate identity from embodiment and argues for the meaning and dignity of biological sex, providing a worldview foundation for understanding femininity as something received, not invented.
🌷 The Empowered Wife — Laura Doyle
A practical look at how a wife’s posture — especially around control, criticism, and respect — shapes the emotional climate of a marriage. Doyle focuses on personal responsibility and relational dynamics rather than trying to fix a husband.
💞 Love and Respect — Emerson Eggerichs
Centered on the idea that women deeply need love and men deeply need respect, this book explains how marriages fall into negative cycles when those needs are missed and offers tools for restoring a pattern of mutual security and honor.